That awkward moment when....

America, can I share a recent text convo with you?

Him: Morning.
Me: Good Morning, how r u?
Him: Im good. Hadnt talk 2 u in a while... u been busy?
Me: Yeah. School, work, you know the drill.
Him: Well Im sure ur not that busy that u cant call or text every now and again.
Me: This is true, but u havent reached out to me either.... u know the saying, out of sight out of mind
Him: So r u telling me that i dont cross ur mind...
Me: Well if i didnt reach out to you then that is a reasonable conclusion to draw :)

Ok, you're right America, I should've left the smiley off the end of my comment but he took it there when he made the comment about me being too busy to contact him. Like really dude? Your vagina is showing. I don't owe any man an explanation as to why I didn't call or text, but when asked I may be obliged to respond in my unmistakably blunt honest fashion.

Look America, I'm a girl that likes the chase.... or at least the illusion of one. If you are not showing me that you are interested, then why should I be the only one making contact? I reciprocate what I'm getting and in this case dude wasn't putting forth any effort. And just like men like to remind us there are PLENTY of women who will give them what I won't; allow me to let you in on a little secret, this works in the reverse. I've said it before, and I will say it again because I believe it, I'm an attractive female so getting a date ain't a problem.

Just like unemployment, thirst levels out here are at an all time high. In other words, it's a singles market. So let's review the rules of engagment:

1. Taking me out and paying for a date doesn't make US anything. If I don't say thank you feel free to talk mad shit about me.


2. If I don't respond to your text immediately, it could be because I'm not sitting with the phone in my hand looking at the clock wondering why you haven't contacted me today.


3. If I haven't responded to a text, call or email from you in days.... it's a wrap. Move on, it's a singles market outchea!


4. Having sex with you doesn't make US anything. We not in a relationship, and I am not your personal ho. Feel free to talk mad shit about me if you weren't impressed but don't contact me to do it again! If I don't contact you to do it again move on, it's a singles market outchea!


5. Ain't nothing wrong with making your intentions clear but don't start trying to occupy ALL of my free time and get all clingy. Ewwwwww.......


6. Don't send me no doggone facebook request. We ain't anything.


7. And the most import rule of them all: I am single, therefore I will see other people. You should try it too because it's a singles market outchea!

Following these simple rules in the world according to Nef will help one to avoid that awkward moment when....

Why are you still single?

So America, I'm back in this dating game... kinda sorta. I've decided to try something entirely new for me, online dating. So far, not so great. I'm already on my second site and can I say I don't want to go on anymore 1st dates!

What's the problem Nef? Well firstly America, I'm sad to report that some of you are dumb as a doorknob. You can't spell, you don't know the difference between their, there and they're, and when you open your (not you're) mouth to speak you further reinforce my belief that many of y'all (i.e. you all) barely graduated from High School.

Secondly, not only do yall not know how to write but you apparently can't read either. I spend time creating a profile that gives you insight on who I am and what do you end up saying in your initial message to me: "Tell me about yourself." Then we go on the infamous first date only for you to ask me again to tell you about myself.... I mean I know I can be a little self absorbed but how enthusiatic do you expect me to be when answering this question for a third time???

Which brings me to my last thought, why do men generally say the following: "You're beautiful, seem to have it together and are on the up and up, so why are you still single?" Is that a compliment or an insult. Does being single mean that I'm damaged goods? Are beautiful people not allowed to be single? I tell you that damned Halle Berry with her 2 divorces is to blame for this!

*Sigh*