Fresh from the dating adventures of JustNef we have a 1st.
Not since high school has someone taken me on a date to McDonald's. While normally this would warrant automatic dismissal from tryouts I must say that this man has cemented a 2nd date from me in the very near future.
I'm all over this trying something new thing and this is exactly how I ended up eating a kids meal at McD's for dinner on Saturday. When he asked if we could meet up sometime over the past weekend my knee jerk response was I have my son and generally need advanced notice to make accomdations for him but straight from a Tyler Perry movie dude was like, "Well I have my girls this weekend, so why don't we meet at the park and we can bring the kids?" How could I say no to that? The boy enjoyed the park, and the meet up was so unassuming that none of the kids really noticed. At the end of the play date his girls stated that they were hungry and asked their dad if he would take them to McDonald's. He said sure but in a twist of fate they asked if they could invite their new friend (my son)...lol How cute! It was definitely a good time for the great taste of McDonald's.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Saturday, October 16, 2010
It was over before it started...
Welp, Jamaica was cut from the roster. I love early cuts. No one is attached, so walking away isn't personal.
So what lead to Jamaica's downfall? Well we were supposed to meet up for a date, one in which we had talked to each other about just an hour and a half prior to the scheduled meet time of 7:30pm. Well 7:30 came, no Jamaica. 8:00 came, no Jamaica, no phone call or text. 8:30 I called and left a voicemail. 8:45 I sent a text. 9pm he was unofficially released, barring extenuating circumstances such as death, arrest or hospitalization. However those circumstances had an expiration time of midnight. When I finally heard back from him, it around 1pm the next day and it was by text, which read, "I am so sorry. I was speelling." Ok, first of all what the hell is speelling? And secondly, was the best excuse he could come up with 18 hours later? Honestly he could have kept that message because I don't communicate after a cut but I do enjoy a good lie every now and then. He didn't even try to envoke his imagination...
Here is an important take away from Jamaica's slip. My time is important to me. I am a single mom, full time employee and part time graduate student. Setting aside time to spend with someone is a big deal because that means I have to get a sitter, rush to do homework, etc. And it is for these exact same reasons that I am just as considerate about the time of others. Since we were fairly early in our dating adventures a simple call would have been acceptable. The excuse used wouldn't have really mattered to me but definitely noted as a means of identifying patterns of behavior going forward. SN: I am a phone call type of girl. A text would have been ignored even though I sent one, mainly because I ALWAYS call first.
Dudes are always asking me why am I still single. They are usually quick to label me as picky or high maintenance but Jamaica is a perfect example of a dude doing something stupid which got him teliminated from my life. A phone call could have avoided this outcome. Isn't that the same thing our parents used to say?
So what lead to Jamaica's downfall? Well we were supposed to meet up for a date, one in which we had talked to each other about just an hour and a half prior to the scheduled meet time of 7:30pm. Well 7:30 came, no Jamaica. 8:00 came, no Jamaica, no phone call or text. 8:30 I called and left a voicemail. 8:45 I sent a text. 9pm he was unofficially released, barring extenuating circumstances such as death, arrest or hospitalization. However those circumstances had an expiration time of midnight. When I finally heard back from him, it around 1pm the next day and it was by text, which read, "I am so sorry. I was speelling." Ok, first of all what the hell is speelling? And secondly, was the best excuse he could come up with 18 hours later? Honestly he could have kept that message because I don't communicate after a cut but I do enjoy a good lie every now and then. He didn't even try to envoke his imagination...
Here is an important take away from Jamaica's slip. My time is important to me. I am a single mom, full time employee and part time graduate student. Setting aside time to spend with someone is a big deal because that means I have to get a sitter, rush to do homework, etc. And it is for these exact same reasons that I am just as considerate about the time of others. Since we were fairly early in our dating adventures a simple call would have been acceptable. The excuse used wouldn't have really mattered to me but definitely noted as a means of identifying patterns of behavior going forward. SN: I am a phone call type of girl. A text would have been ignored even though I sent one, mainly because I ALWAYS call first.
Dudes are always asking me why am I still single. They are usually quick to label me as picky or high maintenance but Jamaica is a perfect example of a dude doing something stupid which got him teliminated from my life. A phone call could have avoided this outcome. Isn't that the same thing our parents used to say?
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Something New....
So I went on my first blind date EVER last weekend, and to my surprise it wasn't a horror story. I actually had a good time, despite going into it I was thinking in the back of my mind that dude was crazy and was gonna stuff me in the trunk of his car, drive me to a remote location and bury me alive... Ok a bit much, I know...lol. But no for real!
Anywho we enjoyed a nice dinner at Vida Mexican Eatery y Cantina (code for expensive tacos but definitely worth the try) and played a few rounds of pool after dinner. Conversation was great! He is from Jamaica, so we will just call him Mr. Jamaica, and his accent made me melt. I've never dated anyone from the Caribbean, nothing against them just never dated them. He smelled so good and his kisses...... (No worries, I'm gonna keep it PG).
I definitely stepped out of my comfort zone on this one. Something that I realized that I needed to start doing because what I was doing previously just wasn't yielding the results I desired. I'm proud of myself. I've gotten rid of the list, because as my bestie recently told me "lists are for grocery shopping and chores." Don't get me wrong, there are still some "can't do withouts" (i.e. dude must have ALL of his teeth, must have his own ride and place to stay, no more than 2 children and 2 baby mommas, etc.) but at the end of the day my list made it seem like I was trying to date Jesus. And since Jesus isn't available it's time for me to start looking for someone who is.
So here is to something new... I'm sooooo EXCITED!
Anywho we enjoyed a nice dinner at Vida Mexican Eatery y Cantina (code for expensive tacos but definitely worth the try) and played a few rounds of pool after dinner. Conversation was great! He is from Jamaica, so we will just call him Mr. Jamaica, and his accent made me melt. I've never dated anyone from the Caribbean, nothing against them just never dated them. He smelled so good and his kisses...... (No worries, I'm gonna keep it PG).
I definitely stepped out of my comfort zone on this one. Something that I realized that I needed to start doing because what I was doing previously just wasn't yielding the results I desired. I'm proud of myself. I've gotten rid of the list, because as my bestie recently told me "lists are for grocery shopping and chores." Don't get me wrong, there are still some "can't do withouts" (i.e. dude must have ALL of his teeth, must have his own ride and place to stay, no more than 2 children and 2 baby mommas, etc.) but at the end of the day my list made it seem like I was trying to date Jesus. And since Jesus isn't available it's time for me to start looking for someone who is.
So here is to something new... I'm sooooo EXCITED!
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